(not sure if will share the exact though processes but there's lots not said, maybe a future video will help be a step toward more info here should decide to go deeper/personal)
the point here is to voice things not obvious, looked over. overall, positive outcome (bing soy video will reflect this, follow up, maybe felt video take too long and make this blogpost for now even though preferable video). maybe good to whoever reads this and want to make story about a person, with more considerations. and maybe good to voice some objection rather than not mention, showing nuance. silence is often mistaken. maybe also good for people for people who think video is too one-sided/creepy (which it was a little, but wasn't that bad).
lots of them below points made using empathy and elimination of doubt with dialogue:
(probably missing stuff but here is main stuff)
- maybe the framing of the video of investigation and hinting of "arg" misled people, made too dramatic but there is a showmanship element of making videos, almost as if to really sell the video. "mysterious" person gets a "mysterious" theme video, fair enough. maybe not so much bad thing with the misled people, they make up minority among positive/good faith reception and they are thinking which can lead into eventual understanding. did/am still learning faster than ever expected to mentally deal with the things that naturally come to you as a youtuber.
it feels like a discourtesy, rather not do it because know how it feels to not be considered but have to take non-constructive+shamelessly rude people less seriously because it's not helpful and feels like obvious scam to farm grief, some know it, some don't. basic rules of life, show respect and you are worthy of respect, be serious and be taken seriously. - the drawings helped immensely show human element unable to be shown by words alone, drawings can help break communication barrier if unable to use words
- knew could be recorded in "interview", still would've liked to be in the loop or courtesy message saying it will be used. uncletopia is like public arena but at time was only 2 plr, felt more like private conversation
- should've asked for image plainly and for what use, transparency, trust, build rapport
- should've send fr earlier, especially considering topic of video, you may come to find they were waiting the whole time. didn't ignore fr, wondering why after all this time.
- keep subject more in loop, let them see video in advance a week or so, especially if appears to be less extroverted and not currently "popular", mental preparation for increased attention, possible feedback, mutual agreement
- talk to subject/person, good practice. there may be trouble with infinite feedback loop of silence where both parties are too scared to initiate/respond to messages or too busy or are sick or don't trust each other enough due to lack of interactions which are vital to build rapport over time. silence can be peaceful but also deafening. what's the worst that could happen, awkwardness, chance to learn, mutual benefit? not only starting a "relationship" but developing it?
- act in way that ensures subject feels undoubtedly considered, human.
[may or may not explain perspective and why did certain things future expand this post, for now use empathy]
don't like stating it again, bing soy is ok with video. actions and intent (of good faith) matter. some things could've been done to make it smoother but life is at times messy ball of nuance. could worry about shoulda/coulda/woulda, but what are you doing now? the past can't be altered (and shouldn't - violation of time law, changing your past inevitably means unwittingly changing a lot more than you can imagine) but you can change the future. story far from over. lots to do. thanks elmaxo.
